Maturity is a term that is used in many
aspects of life; for example in agriculture, biology, brewery, etc. But
maturity in human emotional development is the focus here. The Dictionary
defines maturity as: the state of full development. As none of us, I believe,
will reach absolute maturity on earth, I prefer sometimes to use the term
‘maturing’ or ‘relative maturity’. For use in this post I put forth a
definition of maturity as follows:
Maturity is a developed
sense of internal control that keeps
a person on the right or appropriate path
in life.
The issue of maturity is so important that one can almost not over emphasize it. It is crucial in marriage, leadership, politics, education, family life, church ministry, etc.
Ecc
10:16—17.Woe
to you, O land, when your king is a child, and your princes feast in the
morning! Happy are you, O land, when your king is the son of the
nobility, and your princes feast at the proper time, for strength, and not for
drunkenness!
3 key concepts in definition
- Develop(ment)—this communicates a sense of growth; of gradual progress; of stages. It is certainly not a sudden thing. Growth is almost always painful!
- Internal control—maturing is essentially inward and independent of social status, academic achievements and sometimes even age. A professor can be very immature while a stark illiterate can be relatively mature, and vice versa.
- Right or appropriate path—maturity keeps you on track! One does not get lost in the mob. It frees you from what a friend calls ‘cultural software’.
Since we were all
born completely immature I have wondered how some turned out more matured than
others. Of course aside from individual choices, parenting is a very important
reason. Like begets like. If the parents are relatively matured their children
will almost certainly be relatively matured. And vice versa. A Child must
necessarily look up to whoever raises him. The impatience, evident lack of
self-control or extreme cowardice of parents (or foster parents) becomes a
model for the child. This reality highlights the seriousness of parenting! Nevertheless,
however you have been raised you can always make a choice
to grow up! The first step is saying
to yourself, ‘I, alone, have the responsibility for the outcome of my emotional
growth.’
There is no
way one can walk with God (not just attending church activities) and not
steadily mature. No one should graduate from the school of maturing.
Ecc
4:13 .Better is a poor and wise youth than an old
and foolish king who no longer knows how to receive counsel.
We grow older everyday. We can do nothing about it. But we grow up by choice.
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